Placing rejection in perspective to ease the ache.
The different day I used to be rejected by a handful of publications. The inspiration to write down doesn’t come simple for me. This can be a subject I’ve spoken to Kyrie Grey about. I can’t simply fly off the bed like a cartoon character who doesn’t have to fret about orthostatic hypotension and simply begin clicking away at my keyboard like Jim Carrey in Bruce Almighty.
So after I do lastly give you one thing I really feel is superb — you higher consider I’m pouring myself onto the keyboard. As soon as the mud settles, I’m sitting there drenched in sweat with what I really feel is my equal of constructing gold from pores and skin flakes utilizing nothing however a keyboard.
Then it’s time to submit it to a publication — hether it’s a comedy piece that made me giggle whereas writing it or a heartfelt poem that got here so deep from the guts that I ought to preserve one eye open for the Tin Man from the Wizard of Ouncesholding a pair of surgical scissors. Then comes the painful wait to be accepted or rejected. I solely submit those I can confidently inform myself, “there isn’t a approach they’re going to show this one down.”
Then they do.
Then the denial units in.
I’m going to the publication and choose everybody else’s piece up and down, “I wrote one thing higher than this” I attempt to justify to myself. Denial is a horrible masks to put on right here as a result of it leads you to inflate your personal self-worth by making an attempt to match your self to others. I rapidly shut myself down although and understand that everybody is sweet in their very own proper and perhaps it simply wasn’t for them.
So I made a decision to take the wholesome route and use comedy as a coping mechanism to offset painful rejection by itemizing a couple of issues that sting greater than being rejected by a publication.
A Pal Breakup
Not simply any good friend, a greatest good friend. Truly, dropping any type of good friend sucks as a result of, at our age, it isn’t very easy to make new ones. Naturally dropping buddies isn’t as painful as a result of life will get in the way in which. You turn into too busy with a brand new child or relationship, considered one of you strikes away, or work simply turns into an excessive amount of of a precedence for the rest. Nonetheless, the type of good friend breakups that basically sting are those that finish due to negativity. Whether or not they stabbed you within the again, you stabbed them within the again, otherwise you each threw one another below transferring busses. That’s the proper phrase, proper? Anyway, if you need to say, “I don’t want that type of negativity in my life” to finish it with a good friend, then that stings greater than being rejected by a publication.
Being Rejected From A Job
Kat Kou advised me one thing on Fb the opposite day that resonated with me. It was one thing about how laborious we work right here on Medium scraping for pennies. Loads of us do deal with this as a job whereas not incomes the kind of financial good points of getting an precise job. Although for me and others I talk throughout the Medium group, we’re a hybrid mixture of seeing if we will make one thing out of this and utilizing it as a portfolio for one thing higher. So whereas getting rejected from publications right here on Medium may sting, being rejected from a better-paying writing job will sting much more.
Does Winnie The Pooh simply assume his honey comes from timber with none kind of intervention from little pissed off yellow bugs with needles for butts? Fortunately for us people, bees hardly ever sting in the event that they’re out on their very own being impartial little buzzers. Nonetheless, honeybees are usually a part of a hive and can sting when you get too shut to 1. Now the suckers you actually need to be careful for are wasps. Don’t let Google let you know they serve any function apart from to be bees who want anger administration.