Today morning, I woke up to the notification of Netflix New Releases — Kabir Singh. I had a meaning to watch the movie for quiet a while, but as there was no standard quality available, I waited for it to be released. There were plenty of people forming and sharing their own opinions about it across the internet; both negative and positive. Some had an extreme fondness, some were utterly disgusted; nothing in between. Now I am here doing the same but I am guessing I am late to the party. I avoided reading any of the reviews to construct a entirely unbiased opinion of one of the most discussed Bollywood movie of 2019.
If you’re someone who admires the movie Kabir Singh and loves it with all dear heart, you might want to click off this page and rethink your life decisions, really.
Let’s start with the fun part: the misogyny. The movie begins with a scene of the protagonist, Kabir threatening a young lady to have sex with him at a knifepoint after she refuses to while aggressively tearing apart her clothes. What better way to start a movie, right? How don’t you think the scene differs from rape (non-consensual sex)? Then after the movie keeps progressing, Kabir falls in ‘deep love’ with a girl named, Preeti Sikka from the very first glance. I mean, is this even possible? Is love that easy? If it’s then I don’t wanna be in love. Anyway, The girl is shy, socially awkward and of course doesn’t posses any self worth of her own; which is kind of acceptable due to the fact she’s barely legal, 19. She’s very naive of the world around her. And here comes Kabir, the hot-headed, mercurial and womanizer to leave the little girl scarred for life time. Kabir proceeds to ‘impress’ Preeti by stalking her from place to place and ends up kissing her one day without even feeling the need to ask her, her face remains blank like always. Then after a while he starts to choose her friends for her and starts isolating her from the rest of the class. One day she injures her foot and to help her maintain her daily normal life, Kabir takes her to his room in a boy’s hostel without a care of the world, her face still remains blank. And no one speaks up anything against him. They wind up in having sex after all the ‘effort’ he had put into the relationship. Even though a good amount of movie is finished up , there was still no dialogue from Preeti. After their sexual acts, she starts showing some emotion instead of looking dead inside all the time and the first dialogue of her is delivers.
Kabir, what do you like in me?
I like the way you breath.
Like the way I breath, huh? Doesn’t she have some better feature to be complimented on? Like dude, she talked to you for the first time, at least show some appreciation. Anyway, it’s pretty obvious after all of the scenes now that Kabir doesn’t actually see anything in her, expect he views her as an object that he needs to own, yeah we women are only objects to own by men, right? And the fact that he didn’t even know if she could talk or have any sort personality and still jumped into the bed with her in the name of ‘love’ says heights.
The movie goes on to have multiple climaxes: Kabir threatens Preeti’s parents and siblings for refusing to him marry with her and gives Preeti an ultimatum for their relationship, he also threatens to throw a flowerpot at her sister when she interrupts their conversation, he gives Preeti 6 hours to do whatever she can to lead her parents to marry her off with him, and also slaps her forcefully when she doesn’t seem to stop nagging him to stay — these really shows how little understanding or concern he has of the position he is putting Preeti in, clearly he never loved her, you can’t call it love, one should never romanticize this type of behavious, this is a pure form of manipulation, understand the difference; Kabir guides nurses to perform an operation when he is intoxicated to a level that indicates alcohol poisoning, then almost goes to jail for doing so, but then brags about saving more than 500 patients while drunk in the courtroom and gets away with jail time and also some other idiotic climaxes. At the end, of course the Virgin Mary, Preeti isn’t touched by any other man, which she assures Kabir of or else she couldn’t be a saint any more, and reveals that she’s carrying a baby of Kabir and later marries each other. The ‘happy ending’ is a huge red flag on its own. Bizarre part of it all is that nobody seems to oppose him or thrash him black and blue throughout the movie, except for his father for some time.
There are a lot more problematic scenes and dialogues that I couldn’t cover up, but I think you can get the hold of it. Moreover, Kabir in the movie Kabir Singh is an aggressive, sickening and high functioning alcoholic who keeps physically and emotionally manipulating the submissive and gullible, Preeti. Again, she is called out during a heated argument by him to have no identity of her own (which is true) and that her only identity was that she was his girl, in Kabir’s words Meri Bandi. The actions rather than shown in a negative light, are glorified the whole time. And the saddest part is the audiences in theaters in India are said to be cheering and applauding every time he treated her like a scumbag, which I think says a lot about them.
And last but not the least, a piece of advice or a hack for you. If you’re a female and want to recognize a narcissistic pervert and manipulator from a distance, ask them if they liked the movie Kabir Singh casually. If yes, that says a lot about their cheap distasteful mentality, spit on them and RUN sister.